Two and a half years later, my life has changed: In the course of nine months, I began dating, became engaged to and married the man I believe God chose for me.In light of what has happened since I wrote these posts, I believe even more resolutely that God orders our steps in the journey toward marriage. 22, 2007 I've recently been thinking a lot about God's participation in my love life.And if you want to get married, you take initiative with members of the opposite sex by building healthy relationships with them and either pursuing or being open to pursuit.Men, if you want to get married and the Lord has clearly (or possibly) put a godly woman in your life, do something about it. He met Amber when he first moved there three years ago, and their paths continued to cross. But they may not realize that their negative perceptions of the guys who are not asking them out may be keeping those very guys away.
But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed.
I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.